This is part 3 of our series "Common But's". If you would like to read part 1 and 2, click the link to part 1 "It's too Hard!" and catch up!
Do you ever hear yourself faced with a decision and you say yourself, “I want to do___ but its too risky!”? I would say the majority of us would admit we are afraid of risk, however, we have to make sure we don't let it become a reason for not doing something we want or even NEED to do. If we do we will limit our ability to seek new opportunities of growth and improvement.
What does risk mean? According to dictionary.com risk is, “exposure to the chance of injury or loss; a hazard or dangerous chance.” I want to focus on one word of that definition, “chance”. Yes, when you risk something there is definitely a chance something will go wrong but instead of viewing it as a chance many times we view it as a definite! We think if it CAN go wrong it WILL go wrong. This attitude stunts our growth and prohibits us from getting what we want. Take an example of wanting to move somewhere you have always wanted to live. If you let risk get in your way these kinds of thoughts may invade your mind, “how will I find a place to live?”. “how will I find a new job?”, “what will my family think about moving far away?”, “what if I don't like it as much as where I live now?”
The list of questions could go on and on. By the end of your negative self talk session you could easily convince yourself it is far too risky to move and you need to stay where you are now. Thankfully there are some ways to mitigate risk:
Founder of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg, said “The biggest risk is not taking any risk…In a world that is changing really quickly the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” I would agree with Mark, so stop saying, “but its too risky!” and get to work on deconstructing the risks you have been too afraid to confront and overcome, don't let them hold you back any longer.
J. Matthew King, Co-founder
This is part 2 of our series "Common But's". If you would like to read part 1, "It's too Hard!" click the link and catch up!
We live in a microwave society. We want and expect things to be done quickly without a lot of commitment on our part. Shockingly this isn’t how things work. Big goals like getting a degree, getting in shape, starting a business, and strengthening a relationship, take a big time investment and commitment.
When you are on the outskirts of starting a goal it can seem insurmountable when the timeline to completion is a few years. It can be easy to think I can never get this done, it will take forever! Don’t let your mind go there, take the emotion out of it, try and think rationally.
Let's pretend your goal is to get a Master’s degree and it will take 2-3 years if you go part time. Yes, it can seem like a long time to finish especially if you are working full time, BUT if you don't start the Master’s program now, 2-3 years will still pass and you will still not have the degree. Time is going to pass regardless so you might as well be accomplishing your goal during that time!
Now here is where you can use emotion to your advantage. When you are staring at a time consuming goal, think about what it will feel like when you have accomplished it versus how would you feel if you don't even try. Regret is a horrible feeling to deal with. Anything worth doing takes time. Make the commitment and investment to make it happen and don’t let the excuse of it taking too long get to you!
J. Matthew King, Co-founder